This category provides all blog articles written by Cory and Kerry Schortzman.

11 10, 2018

From Empathy to Enabling to Entitlement

By |2018-10-11T22:43:16+00:00October 11th, 2018|All Blogs, All Cory's Blogs, Boundaries, Codependency, Emotional Addiction, Marriage|0 Comments

In a previous blog, we looked at apathy, sympathy, codependency and empathy. However, the story continues. Continuing with the illustration of a well, let’s pick up where we the story left off. The next morning you go back to the well and climb down the ladder bringing food, water, love and first aid. You listen [...]

2 10, 2018

When Recovery Becomes…A Weapon

By |2018-09-30T22:34:32+00:00October 2nd, 2018|All Blogs, All Cory's Blogs, Intimacy Anorexia, Marriage, Sex Addiction|0 Comments

Over the years while helping others in their recovery, I have seen how recovery can be manipulated, turned, twisted, and weaponized. Knowledge, words, concepts, catchy phrases, lines, labels and even a clinical diagnosis can be used as a weapon – much like loaded gun that is always ready to be used against friends, family, [...]

18 09, 2018

When Recovery Corrupts…the Recovered

By |2018-09-16T21:36:24+00:00September 18th, 2018|All Blogs, All Cory's Blogs, Codependency, Narcisissm, Support Groups|0 Comments

Recently in one of my support groups, we discussed the topic of finding a sponsor as well as the importance of a group leader being genuine and humble, there to serve others and not to be served or to stroke his ego. The meeting reminded me of a story about humility I heard years [...]

11 09, 2018

When you Marry as a Prostitute Don’t Expect a Faithful Prince

By |2018-09-11T16:58:10+00:00September 11th, 2018|All Blogs, All Cory's Blogs, Intimacy Anorexia, Marriage, Sex Addiction|0 Comments

In the spirit of bashing and shaming men and keeping women as victims, I thought it necessary to address this topic, which I did some time ago in another blog entitled Victimized Women and Shamed Men. For most of the women who read this blog, I warn you in advance that this blog is [...]

25 08, 2018

Cognitive Dissonance in Recovery Part II

By |2018-08-25T15:39:59+00:00August 25th, 2018|All Blogs, All Cory's Blogs, Emotional Addiction, Marriage, Sex Addiction|0 Comments

“It is easier to fool people, than convince them that they have been fooled.” - Mark Twain In this blog, which is part II of Cognitive Dissonance in Recovery, we are going to look at what I call Type II Cognitive Dissonance. Remember, this type occurs when one’s mental perception and core beliefs are in [...]

9 08, 2018

Cognitive Dissonance in Recovery Part I

By |2018-08-09T22:36:11+00:00August 9th, 2018|All Blogs, All Cory's Blogs, Codependency, Emotional Addiction, Intimacy Anorexia, Marriage|0 Comments

In this two-part blog, we are going to look at and begin to understand Cognitive Dissonance.  We are going to look at this through the lens of recovery and discover how it can help you understand yourself as well as your personal and professional relationships. “In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological stress) [...]