Exchanging the Debt of Shame with the Currency of Forgiveness, Part II

If your mind is not spinning from Part I, let’s continue on with Part II.

Before 1868, America was under Common Law or Law of the Land.

Natural Law and the Natural Man or Free Man, a human being, meant each man and woman had their own sovereignty to kill or be killed and act as their own judge if you will.

Sometime after 1868, sovereignty was removed from each human and given to the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, as it was incorporated or became a company.  Each human became a person and a part of the corporation, JOHN DOE (all caps) vs. John Doe (small letters).

Any local, state, or federal document or license will always show your name in all CAPS. A company has selected authorized people to act as a single entity to govern over.

Law of the water now rules (or took jurisdiction) over the law of the land.

All of this was done without American citizens knowledge or consent.

Now, let’s look at some words and definitions to better understand our financial system and the topic of this blog.

Commerce believe it or not simply means: social intercourse, an exchange of ideas, goods or services. This is where we get our words like: common, commit, community, communion, commodity, .com, etc.

The root word of commerce is Cum or Com, which is the Latin word for: with, together, in association with, with honors and even with intense force, which can be related to the act of sex.

Common is an interesting word in the Greek 2829 kion’os, which means what is defiled, mundane, not special, stripped of its sacredness, spiritual desecration. (Very interesting)

Exchange is the idea of trading something (money, time, service, items, property) in the hope of receiving something else of equal value.

Money is any currency accepted by two parties in a transaction of goods or services.  This can be in the form of paper, metals, precious metals, fiat, etc. It can also mean nothing more than an agreed upon value system.

Account is the prExchanging Debt of Shame with Currency of Forgivenessactice of keeping track, a report, statement, documentation, narrative of events that can be financial, time, services and/or items exchanged.

Debt is the act of recovering money that is due, or an obligation to pay back the thing that is due or owed in an account. Debt is also defined as a trespass or sin.

Sin is transgression, an account of an immoral act against a moral or divine law, offense, crime, guilt. It also means to miss the mark, the lack of love, a correction or to be corrected, not punished. Some may also believe the word sin comes from the mathematical term sine and cosine and can also be related to time.

We usually think of shame as a humiliating emotion of disgrace. But if you break down the word, you have sham-e or sham-me: a false me, falsehood, hoax. The prefix Sha or Sha’a in the Hebrew (Strongs 8173) can mean bogus or a thing that is not what is purported or supposed to be, false. Further can mean: to smear over, be blinded, to smear one’s eyes shut, to be blinded, blind one’s self. It can also mean to delight in, to be fondled, to delight one’s self.

This sounds familiar.  Could this be why masturbation is related to shame?  Therefore, is shame a form of mental masturbation?

If we put this all together, many addicts have a difficult time saying “no” in personal and professional relationships. Oftentimes, they say “yes” and overcommit to be the “nice guy,” to rescue or help, because they feel guilt or shame when they say “no”.  This creates depression, anxiety, and anger that makes them want to medicate with their addiction to kill the pain.

When an addict becomes healthy and moves out of codependency, they move toward creating strong boundaries. Then, they have the ability to say “no” since they no longer feel the need to say “yes” to everyone. They believe their “debt” or “sin” has been “paid”.  They have no more secrets and move toward honesty and healthy living in freedom.

Most importantly, they have forgiven themselves and others (by letting all accusations go). The shame or hoax, the “false me” eventually goes away.  It can no longer control them, nor are others able to control them with it.

Just like an addiction, the Maritime/debt system is a perpetual slave system. The old system like Maritime Law of paying the “debt” or the “sin” to balance accounts with their currency of exchange with their time and money is no longer needed or wanted by the addict.

Exchanging Debt Break FreeThey are now forgiven. A free man or woman operating by a different law, taking responsibility, and claiming sovereignty back.

At times, family, friends, personal and professional relationships intentionally or unintentionally create resistance of this new system of commerce.  They often fight the recovering addict, keeping them in the debt-shame-blame system. They have not forgiven, nor really understood forgiveness.

Frequently, tension between couples occurs over sex, money, and love.

[Read the blog post, When you Marry as a Prostitute, Don’t Expect a Faithful Prince]

The recovered addict may need to end some relationships or create strong boundaries around themselves to protect their recovery.

A new healthy community can be created.

What was once common/defiled is now uncommon/undefiled. With great force, a new sacred commerce can be created.

Sources: Wikipedia, Merriam Webster Dictionary, Jordon Maxwell, Black’s Law Dictionary, Greek and Hebrew Dictionary, Jaydreamerz.



Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman is an author, speaker, teacher and licensed mental health professional. Since 2008, he has served as the Executive Director of Transformed Hearts Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, CO. He is the founder of SARA, the Sexual Addiction Recovery Association. Cory is passionate about helping couples and individuals overcome sex addiction. He is also passionate about bringing awareness to the public and supporting the elimination of sex and human trafficking. Cory has been married since 1998 to his beautiful wife, Kerry, and lives in Colorado with their four daughters. He and Kerry have been seen on the CBS Early Show, Inside Edition, and ABC Good Morning America, Fox 21 News, and TLC/Discovery discussing the harm of sex addiction and the joys of recovery. He has also been heard on numerous radio programs.

Cory’s books include: Out of the Darkness, Into the Light the Workbook, Into the Light the Steps, Ashes to Beauty the Steps, 301 Dating Ideas, 301 Conversational Ideas, 301 Ways to Say I Love You, 301 Ways to Love Your Children & 301 Recovery Tools & Tips.

Kerry’s books include: Ashes to Beauty the Book and Ashes to Beauty the Workbook

Co-authored books include: 101 Blogs to Transform your Life, Volume I and Offended Deceived Addicted

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