What is Intimacy Anorexia?
Intimacy Anorexia | 10 Common Character Traits
Intimacy anorexia is the starvation of love from your partner. It is when a person in a relationship actively withholds emotional, sexual or spiritual intimacy from their partner.
Characteristic #1: Withholding Love
Intimacy anorexics often actively withhold love from their partner.
Characteristic #2 Withholding Praise & Appreciation
Intimacy anorexics often do not praise their partner on a regular basis.
Characteristic #3 Withholding Sex
Some intimacy anorexics also withhold sex from their partner.
Characteristic #4 Controlling with Silence or Anger
Intimacy anorexics often use silence or anger to control their partner.
Characteristic #5 Too Busy for Relational Time
Intimacy anorexics stay so busy they have little relational time for their partner.
Characteristic #6 Ongoing or Ungrounded Criticism
Intimacy anorexics often have ongoing or ungrounded criticism toward their partner.
We refer to these as the ABCs: accusation, blame and criticism. They often go hand-in-hand.
Characteristic #7 Unwillingness or Inability to Discuss Feelings
Intimacy anorexics are often unwilling or unable to share their feelings with their partner.
Characteristic #8 Making Problems or Issues about Your Partner
Intimacy anorexics may shift the blame to their partner on a consistent basis.
Characteristic #9 Controlling with Money
Though this may be the least common characteristic, an intimacy anorexic often will use money to control their partner.
Characteristic #10 Withholding Spiritually
Intimacy anorexics, though they may be religious, can also withhold prayer and reading the Bible together with their partner.