Today, as I was looking for an old Bible to read a different version of Scripture, I found an old, tattered poem. I wanted to share it with you today.
The Most Beautiful Flower, Author Unknown
The park bench was deserted as I sat down to read
Beneath the long, straggly branches of an old willow tree.
Disillusioned by life with good reason to frown
For the world was intent on dragging me down.
And if that weren’t enough to ruin my day,
A young boy out of breath approached me, all tired from play.
He stood right before me with his head tilted down
And said with great excitement, “Look what I’ve found!”
In his hand was a flower, and what a pitiful sight,
With its petals all worn, not enough rain or too little light.
Wanting him to take his dead flower and go off to play,
I faked a small smile and then shifted away.
But instead of retreating, he sat next to my side
And placed the flower to his nose
And declared with overacted surprise,
“It sure smells pretty and it’s beautiful, too.
That’s why I picked it; here, it’s for you.”
The weed before me was dying or dead.
Not vibrant of colors, orange, yellow or red.
But I knew I must take it, or he might never leave.
So I reached for the flower, and replied, “Just what I need.”
But instead of him placing the flower in my hand,
He held it mid-air without reason or plan.
It was then that I noticed for the very first time
That weed-toting boy could not see: he was blind.
I heard my voice quiver, tears shone like the sun
As I thanked him for picking the very best one.
“You’re welcome,” he smiled, and then ran off to play,
Unaware of the impact he’d had on my day.
I sat there and wondered how he managed to see
A self-pitying woman beneath an old willow tree.
How did he know of my self-indulged plight?
Perhaps from his heart, he’d been blessed with true sight.
Through the yes of a blind child, at last I could see
The problem was not with the world; the problem was me.
And for all of those times, I myself had been blind,
I vowed to see the beauty in life,
And appreciate every second that’s mine.
And then I held that wilted flower up to my nose
And breathed in the fragrance of a beautiful rose
And smiled as I watched that young boy,
Another weed in his hand about to change
the life of an unsuspecting old man.
A dear friend of mine recently texted me, “What a blessing adventure! The adventure I see…the blessings are already bought and paid for, what they are wrapped in can be surprising.“
How many times do we view life through the eyes of one who cannot truly see, like in this poem? However, after some time, the “offended” woman realized the boy was blind and discovered the true gift of what she had received. The same is true for those of us with an authentic story of hurt and pain in our past or our current reality – those of us who have been or are married to a sex addict or intimacy anorexic. Maybe we are the addict or anorexic.
It can be surprising to see what gifts you might discover on your blessing adventure, can it not? What the enemy meant to harm us, God meant for good. No one can ever discredit or take away your authentic story, your testimony, of how God revealed himself to you during that difficult time.
My husband and I have always prayed God would use our pain for His glory, and we believe He has. However, you have to allow God to tend to your ailing heart, bring healing and restoration to your soul and discover the blessing adventure as you travel the road of recovery. So, what are you waiting for? Enjoy your surprising wrapped blessings!
Weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning. – Psalm 30:5b
Kerry Schortzman is the Director of Operations at Transformed Hearts Counseling Center as well as an author and speaker. She has traveled the road of recovery alongside her husband through the wildfires of intimacy anorexia. She has a heart and passion to see healing and restoration in relationships and marriages as well as to bring public awareness to eliminate sex and human trafficking. Kerry has been married since 1998 and lives in Colorado with her husband and four daughters. She and Cory have been seen on the CBS Early Show, Inside Edition, and ABC Good Morning America, Fox 21 News, and TLC/Discovery discussing the harm of sex addiction and the joys of recovery.
Cory’s books include: Out of the Darkness, Into the Light the Workbook, Into the Light the Steps, Ashes to Beauty the Steps, 301 Dating Ideas, 301 Conversational Ideas, 301 Ways to Say I Love You, 301 Ways to Love Your Children & 301 Recovery Tools & Tips.