I am not talking about “dirty old” adult men sexually perpetrating young girls.
I am talking about adult women perpetrating sexual acts with boys who are their students and are also minors.
What is going on here?
With a little research, you will see that this is a national and international problem.
In almost every state in the U.S. as well as the provinces of Canada, there are female teachers perpetrating their male students.
There is a discrepancy in the courts with an inconsistency in prosecution.
Almost daily news stories are released about students being perpetrated at the Junior High, High School and College level.
There also seems to be a double standard in media coverage when a woman perpetrates a male student as when a male teacher or coach perpetrates a female student or athlete.
This double standard is not only seen in media coverage and court prosecution but also in the public mentality of what is appropriate or “normal.”
A young man is a cool “stud” to be perpetrated by the “sexy” female teacher or coach. His peers admire him and may even be jealous.
However, if a female student is perpetrated by a male teacher or coach, there is a public outcry.
There are many differences by county, state, and country as to what really is the age of consent.
It can be as young as 15 years of age.
Why does it seem that there so many female teachers committing sex acts with their students?
The short answer is that no one really knows.
However, serving in the field of sex addiction treatment for the past decade, I have 7 possible reasons for this.
- A Pornified Culture
First, there has been an increase in the pornification of our culture- not only that of women but of men. This has been a long time coming over the decades with the likes of Hugh Hefner, Hollywood, as well as with the media and advertising companies continuing to push the envelope to desensitize the public. It’s an intentional, deliberate assault on families and children to inflict early exposure to sex and pornography.
- Social Media
The internet and social media creates a “safe” place for anyone to connect and be whoever they want to be. Teachers and students also use this platform to connect outside of authorized school platforms that are traditionally used for education, assignments, homework and discussions.
- What you fill your Mind, Body and Soul with is what it Craves
Years ago, I use to drink soda and eat junk food daily. Now, I try to eat healthier foods, such as nuts, fruits and vegetables. It has taken time, but now my body craves these foods. I no longer desire junk food. Sex is the same way. If you masturbate to thoughts, fantasies, or a narrative with a specific type of sex act, gender or age for a length of time, you will desire that type of sexual activity. Your brain gives off oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin and many other chemicals during and after sex. Sexual desire can make you do stupid things. http://www.theblaze.com/video/commentary-can-sex-make-you-stupid
At first glance, many believe this to be true. We are sold this every day. If you think about it, sex does not equate to love. It can. However, more often than not, sex has nothing to do with love. Sex can be abusive, such as rape or treating another as an object like in the hookup culture. Most often, it has nothing to do with true intimacy.
- A Rape Culture
As the population of a culture receives a steady diet of sexual images that are arousing and stimulates their mind and body, the more often the drug is needed. Much like cocaine addiction, the user will never receive the same high as they did from the first use. A pornified culture becomes a rape culture. Generally, sexual appetites progress into violence and become more deviant. It may even lead into pedophilia.
- It’s Nothing New
However, people are now speaking. We also must consider the possibility that school educators have been perpetrating their students for generations; however now, students have a voice due to social media, monitoring video cameras, stricter and mandatory reporting laws.
- Loss of Shame and Conviction
There also appears to be social or cultural trend that deviant social behavior no longer creates shame or conviction for those participating in these acts. In fact, there appears to be an attitude of entitlement to get what they want through any means necessary to get their deviant desire met. The loss of self-discipline, the lack of foresight to understand how actions have consequences and the ability to see life beyond one’s self perspective is concerning. The absence of empathy and love is the beginning of the end of a culture.
If you or someone you know has been victimized by a teacher or coach, please seek help from a professional or safe authority figure.
Do not be silent any longer.
Begin your journey to healing today.
Cory Schortzman is an author, speaker, teacher and licensed mental health professional. Since 2008, he has served as the Executive Director of Transformed Hearts Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, CO. He is the founder of SARA, the Sexual Addiction Recovery Association. Cory is passionate about helping couples and individuals overcome sex addiction. He is also passionate about bringing awareness to the public and supporting the elimination of sex and human trafficking. Cory has been married since 1998 to his beautiful wife, Kerry, and lives in Colorado with their four daughters. He and Kerry have been seen on the CBS Early Show, Inside Edition, and ABC Good Morning America, Fox 21 News, and TLC/Discovery discussing the harm of sex addiction and the joys of recovery. He has also been heard on numerous radio programs.
Cory’s books include: Out of the Darkness, Into the Light the Workbook, Into the Light the Steps, Ashes to Beauty the Steps, 301 Dating Ideas, 301 Conversational Ideas, 301 Ways to Say I Love You, 301 Ways to Love Your Children & 301 Recovery Tools & Tips.