Sex, Hugh Hefner and XXX

Hugh Hefner, Sex, XXX

 

As the news of the passing of the late Hugh Hefner was released, some have been saddened and others have celebrated.

There have been many blogs and articles written but few from the perspective I want to share.

Over the past 10 years as a sexual recovery therapist and as a recovering sex addict myself, I now walk with men and women out of the carnage of the devastation pornography and infidelity has caused in their lives.

It has been an adventure, and I have learned a great deal.

I am not here to judge Mr. Hefner, as I never met him or knew much about him other than the fact that he was the founder of Playboy magazine.

This pornographic magazine forever changed the way women are viewed as well as how men and women in modern day think of sex.

His behavior showed that he believed in his mission by the billions of dollars generated, the lifestyle he lived, and the decades he spent promoting Playboy.

By the way, I have a question, “Was Mr. Hefner ever one of the centerfolds? If not, why?”

I believe Mr. Hefner sold us all a lie.

For the most part, our culture has been misled to believe that nudity = intimacy, sex = love, or that love = sex.

We all know in our hearts this is not true, but we believe it more than we know and have been programed to believe through the media, entertainment, movies, TV, and video games.

Further, my faith-based friends have also been misled. \

Churches and religious leaders have been teaching for generations that God or the Creator created sex as well as how to have “sacred sex.”

After all my research and writing, I am here to say that this is simply not true.

The Creator, El, or Yah, did not create sex.

However, with that said, I do believe the Creator did create Intimacy!  (I know this is a paradigm shift for many and perhaps sounds blasphemous).

The Creator did create sacred intimacy.

Sex is a perversion of what that intimacy was intended to be.

As we understand and experience sex today, it is perverted and inverted.

Now, I am not here to be a sex buzz kill but only to make you think.

I enjoy sexual intimacy with my wife; however, we have had even deeper intimacy outside the bedroom in conversations, sharing dreams, goals, and in prayer.

Don’t take my word today of anything I am saying.

Seek the truth for yourself.

Be a truth seeker.

Stop being locked in what you believe.

Continue with your beliefs, which are shaped by your life experiences, but continue to be a seeker of truth.

From where did this word sex really come from and originate?

Check out the blog The Power of Love [https://transformedhearts.com/the-power-of-love/]].

We really do not know.  Sex means gender.  It can also mean the number six.

In algebra, we are out to find the value of X…right?

It is intended to discover the unknown.

Now, we have Generation-X (my generation), X-Box, X-finity, X-Games, X, XX, XXX, XY, XL, XS, Rx, Ex, X-rated, Hex, Sex, X-Factor, XM, Mex, X-Men, Malcom X, X-mas, X-marks-the-spot, Excalibur, X-Files, X-Division and Planet X, I-Phone X, Texting, Sexting, and XTC.

We could go on, but you get the point.

What does X really mean what is the origin of this letter?

Just think about how entertainment programs at all levels continue to sell us more perverted sex, nudity, and violence than ever before.

Why is this letter found in and on computer, phone, media, and gaming devices?

What are we being “programed” for and why?

The letter X has many esoteric hidden meanings only a few know.

It has a spiritual and religious meaning, symbolism and a transfer of power and energy.

In the Greek and Hebrew alphabet, X can be the number for 6…three 6’s…interesting.

It is also known as the fallen cross.

It can also often be found in luciferian and satanic rituals and symbols.

Traditionally, sexual acts are a central part of these ceremonies and worship all of which have nothing to do with intimacy.

To my knowledge, and I could be wrong, sex is never a part of any of the other major religious ceremonies during worship when they meet. It is just an observation.

Around the earth in almost every culture, we have sex slaves and sex trafficking at an historic high.

Mostly children, girls and boys are being sold to live a life as a sex slave.

If sex equals love, they must be some of the most loved people in the world.  Right?  Wrong.

Sex and pornography is a product of a fallen, distorted, and perverted understanding of intimacy.

In fact, it has always been from the beginning of time.

However, you are going to have to do your own research on that and discover why I say that.

As I have written before, I believe we are designed, born, and created to be “addicted” to spiritual intimacy.

We are to be attracted to a “nudity” but not the nudity of sex, Hefner or that XXX provide us with that is never enough.

However, too often we try to fill that void with physical things, such as drugs, alcohol and sex which will never satisfy.

Hefner’s legacy will remain with us and continue for decades to come.

But remember, sex is not love, and it never will be.

Again, don’t take my word for it.

Seek the truth for yourself.

It is an adventure!



Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman is an author, speaker, teacher and licensed mental health professional. Since 2008, he has served as the Executive Director of Transformed Hearts Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, CO. He is the founder of SARA, the Sexual Addiction Recovery Association. Cory is passionate about helping couples and individuals overcome sex addiction. He is also passionate about bringing awareness to the public and supporting the elimination of sex and human trafficking. Cory has been married since 1998 to his beautiful wife, Kerry, and lives in Colorado with their four daughters. He and Kerry have been seen on the CBS Early Show, Inside Edition, and ABC Good Morning America, Fox 21 News, and TLC/Discovery discussing the harm of sex addiction and the joys of recovery. He has also been heard on numerous radio programs.

Cory’s books include: Out of the Darkness, Into the Light the Workbook, Into the Light the Steps, Ashes to Beauty the Steps, 301 Dating Ideas, 301 Conversational Ideas, 301 Ways to Say I Love You, 301 Ways to Love Your Children & 301 Recovery Tools & Tips.

Kerry’s books include: Ashes to Beauty the Book and Ashes to Beauty the Workbook

Co-authored books include: 101 Blogs to Transform your Life, Volume I and Offended Deceived Addicted

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