I love speaking life into men and women after my initial session with them, which I learned from my friend Jim. Moving in close and making direct eye contact I say, “Bob, I want you to know that you are good man!”  “Jane, I want you to know that I believe you are an amazing woman!”

More often than not, the eyes of both begin to well up with tears.  Such simple words. What gives them so much power?  They are the very words a man’s heart most often has never heard but longs for, and they validate a weary woman’s strength.

Now in that moment, nothing changes.  It really doesn’t matter what I believe. Everything will start to change once they begin to believe it for themselves.  The problem is many do not believe they are worthy of love, forgiveness, or a second chance. (Moving from Worthless to Worthy is a process.)

Take some time and read through the list below out loud.  Mark up the ones that you believe.  How do they make you feel? Which ones do you want to believe about yourself in the future…even today?  I challenge you to speak out loud your top ten for the next
30 days.

  1. I am worthy to ask for what I want AND need.
  2. I am worthy to ask questions AND question answers.
  3. I am worthy to ask for help.
  4. I am worthy to be loved for who I am.
  5. I am worthy to be FREE of taking any responsibility for the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors of others.
  6. I am worthy to be FREE of giving reasons or excuses for my behaviors or choices.
  7. I am worthy to be angry at someone I love.
  8. I am worthy to be unique and be myself.
  9. I am worthy to be healthier than those around me.
  10. I am worthy to be in a non-abusive environment.
  11. I am worthy to be treated with dignity and respect.
  12. I am worthy to believe that I am a victim of a disease AND that I have made a lot of bad choices.
  13. I am worthy to be…wrong.
  14. I am worthy to change my mind.
  15. I am worthy to change AND grow.
  16. I am worthy to complete the 12 Steps.
  17. I am worthy to cry or feel sadness as well as to show and express it.
  18. I am worthy to determine my own priorities.
  19. I am worthy to agree and disagree.
  20. I am worthy to dream…and dream BIG.
  21. I am worthy to embrace AND reject intimacy.
  22. I am worthy to encourage and be encouraged.
  23. I am worthy to expect honesty from others.
  24. I am worthy to expect that my honesty and vulnerability will not be used against me.
  25. I am worthy to express my feelings that are positive AND negative.
  26. I am worthy to express my sexuality without harming or exploiting others.
  27. I am worthy to experience the 12 Promises of Recovery.
  28. I am worthy to feel my feelings and talk about them when it is safe.
  29. I am worthy to forgive and be forgiven.
  30. I am worthy to follow my own values and standards.
  31. I am worthy to give to others AND keep for myself.
  32. I am worthy to grow at my own pace.
  33. I am worthy to have my wants AND needs respected by others.
  34. I am worthy to heal from trauma.
  35. I am worthy to laugh, be happy, and experience joy.
  36. I am worthy to live FREE from addictive and compulsive behaviors.
  37. I am worthy to live FREE from guilt and shame.
  38. I am worthy to live FREE from accusation, blame and criticism.
  39. I am worthy to live FREE from judging others and being judged.
  40. I am worthy to live FREE from codependency.
  41. I am worthy to live FREE from either/or thinking and choices.
  42. I am worthy to live FREE from the status quo, traditions, manipulations.
  43. I am worthy to live FREE from cultural, racial, religious, scientific, AND political dogma.
  44. I am worthy to live FREE from the problem/reaction/solution matrix.
  45. I am worthy to live in my own sovereignty.
  46. I am worthy to live in harmony, compassion, seek to understand, love, and empathize, rather than live in dualism.
  47. I am worthy to love and be loved.
  48. I am worthy to leave, move, travel and/or stay where I am.
  49. I am worthy to make decisions on how I feel (my gut) AND not be controlled by them.
  50. I am worthy to make friends and be comfortable around people.
  51. I am worthy to make mistakes and not be perfect.
  52. I am worthy to make, save and spend my own money.
  53. I am worthy to make good decisions about trusting myself, others, and God or my Higher Power.
  54. I am worthy to manage my own schedule.
  55. I am worthy to make wise AND foolish choices.
  56. I am worthy to have my own need for personal space and time.
  57. I am worthy to have my perspective AND knowing others do too.
  58. I am worthy to have my voice heard.
  59. I am worthy to have my voice be equal to my partner and others.
  60. I am worthy to have my voice speak unexpressed words.
  61. I am worthy to be playful and be frivolous.
  62. I am worthy to refuse or reject help or care from others.
  63. I am worthy to say “no” to requests or demands I cannot meet.
  64. I am worthy to say “no” to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe, violates my values/beliefs, or it is not the right timing.
  65. I am worthy to say, “I do not know right now.”
  66. I am worthy to set boundaries that protect me, my recovery, and those I love.
  67. I am worthy to solve my own problems.
  68. I am worthy to feel scared and say, “I am afraid.”
  69. I am worthy to take care of myself physically, emotional, financially and spiritually.
  70. I am worthy to take responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, AND behaviors.
  71. I am worthy to take responsibility for my beliefs, agreements, vows, AND change them.
  72. I am worthy to think about me without feeling that it is selfish.
  73. I am worthy to think for myself outside the box and be creative.
  74. I am worthy to think abundantly.
  75. I am worthy to validate AND be validated by others.

Inspired by SMART Recovery Workbook

Written by Cory M. Schortzman 2019

Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman, Executive Director

Cory Schortzman is an author, speaker, teacher and licensed mental health professional. Since 2008, he has served as the Executive Director of Transformed Hearts Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, CO. He is the founder of SARA, the Sexual Addiction Recovery Association. Cory is passionate about helping couples and individuals overcome sex addiction. He is also passionate about bringing awareness to the public and supporting the elimination of sex and human trafficking. Cory has been married since 1998 to his beautiful wife, Kerry, and lives in Colorado with their four daughters. He and Kerry have been seen on the CBS Early Show, Inside Edition, and ABC Good Morning America, Fox 21 News, and TLC/Discovery discussing the harm of sex addiction and the joys of recovery. He has also been heard on numerous radio programs.

Cory’s books include: Out of the Darkness, Into the Light the Workbook, Into the Light the Steps, Ashes to Beauty the Steps, 301 Dating Ideas, 301 Conversational Ideas, 301 Ways to Say I Love You, 301 Ways to Love Your Children & 301 Recovery Tools & Tips.

Kerry’s books include: Ashes to Beauty the Book and Ashes to Beauty the Workbook

Co-authored books include: 101 Blogs to Transform your Life, Volume I and Offended Deceived Addicted

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